The primary focus when selecting memory for a highly-available system is stability. It's no accident that most, if not all, server-class RAM is of the error-correcting variety. There are a few other things to consider, which may not appear obvious at first glance.
Due to the multi-core nature of our CPUs, the amount of addressable memory may depend on the core count. In addition, speed, latency, and parity are all considerations. We also must consider the number of channels reported by each CPU; failing to match this with an equal count of memory sticks will drastically reduce performance.
Let's make our server fast and stable by considering our memory options.